BREAKING NEWS: I Hear You’re Planning A Divorce

by Jermaine

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She’s bossy. Not impressed with your old stories of grandeur.  No. She doesn’t want to listen to your venting, complaining or frustration. You’ve got responsibilities and she expects you to live up to your end of the bargain. Whatever magic you had when you started has worn off. It’s gotten so bad that you no longer pretend to smile when you’re scheduled to meet. You grit and bare it.

It’s tough. Waking up on Monday mornings and thinking about her turns your stomach. You’re married and you want to make it work, but in your heart you know that something has got to change and soon. If not, you just might bust a blood vessel in your forehead. Go ahead. Admit it…

You’re thinking about divorcing your current job.

How do I know?  Because you find yourself dreaming of new prospects: That competitor that pays a little more. That entrepreneur gig a friend tried to introduce you to a few months back. That old fling you had with sales. Even that mythical work-from-home opportunity you laughed off. These are the thoughts that flood your mind as you sit in your car riding to that same destination day after day.

 How do I know? I’m the guy riding behind you with my music playing a little too loud and wondering why you didn’t budge when the light changed. The guy you peep in the rear view mirror and say, “Idiot! What are you smiling about?” Ever wonder why you’re so annoyed at someone else being happy in the morning? Because they have something you used to have.

Now you’re lost and you’re trying to find a spark.

You tell yourself, “In this economy I’m lucky to be gainfully employed.” As the words escape your lips your gag reflex makes you jerk forward. It’s simple: If the thought of doing what you’re doing for ten more years makes you want to throw yourself in front of a train then you might be doing the wrong thing!

“Of all the stratagems, to know when to quit is the best,”Chinese proverb. So you ask, “Now what?”

Start writing your plan

Time to tell your old life you’ve found a new flame. The status quo won’t like it. Introducing hope during this season of despair, confusion and transition is risky. The uncertainty in the atmosphere will stare you down. Don’t waiver. Keep building on your new focus and unearthing your REAL self only found in pursuit of your true goals. Let this five words wash over you like a pouring rain:


The misses a.k.a. your current job will not be excited about your new focus. (Funny how when you want to leave a job it tries to pull you back in and make you recommit all over again.) Don’t! You know your real dream is back. Stick with it and see where it takes you next.  

FYI: On behalf of your destiny, you have my permission to give the old job a little Napoleon Dynamite quote:

“[Destiny] said she doesn’t want you here when she gets back because you’ve been ruining everybody’s lives and eating all our steak!”