It starts off as one bad decision that over time accumulates like bricks mortared together by your willful ignorance. Even though you know the choices you are making are not helping, you act seeking a form of relief from the heaviness of your current predicament. Instead of this mortar being liquid and pliable, it is solid and callus as you avoid personal responsibility and never think of the consequences of your actions. Then one day, your eyes open and you can see vividly the mess you are now surrounded by.
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How did I get here?
Oddly, as you look at the ground around you there is no trail. You left no footprints. With every “easy” choice you made, you went deeper into a place like you were blindfolded being led by stress. You can’t find your way out. Even worse, you can’t see your horizon because of the huge wall of bricks that you built in front of yourself.
Everyone’s wall is different. It could be a limiting career move, a debilitating relationship, a life threatening addiction, or simply bad habits. Whatever it is that is blocking you from going forward in your life or stopping you from going in the direction you want to go, I am here to help you get unstuck.
Below are five ways to get unstuck from your present bad situation. They are so universal that they can be applied to any issue.
1. Figure out where you are and how you got stuck there.
One of the worst things you can do in a situation where you are stuck is try to start moving when you don’t have a clue where you are located. This is extremely important. You need to take some time and determine how you arrived at your current destination. What decisions did you make? What brought you to this point? Without knowing what caused you to get stuck you are highly likely to find yourself right back in the same situation you were in.
2. Take ownership and responsibility for your current situation.
Yes, you have made some bad decisions that put you in an unfamiliar place. Own up to it. Blaming where you are on others will not help you get unstuck. Instead, it will make you bitter, frustrated, and unapproachable. As tough of a pill that it is to swallow, many of us are in situations by choice. Acknowledge you made some mistakes and focus on what you are going to do about it now.
3. Know that where you are now is not where you will end up. You will be unstuck.
Today is the first day of a new journey to a better life. Things are going to get better. You know what bad decisions you have made. You know what to avoid. You know that you are responsible for your life. With this sense of awareness life will be a lot more inspiring. Say “I may not be where I want to go but if I look over the horizon I can see my destination.”
4. Link up with someone who wants to pull you to greatness.
I have tried in my own life to do many things by my own power. Every single time, I ran out of gas and stopped. It wasn’t until I started hanging around people who wouldn’t let me quit did I start to see results. When I was winded and weak, they picked me up and carried me. When I said I couldn’t do it they said “I believe you are going to do something amazing and I can’t wait to see it.”
Imagine being around someone like that everyday.
5. Keep going no matter the obstacles.
Let go of your past. Yes, you made some mistakes. Yes, you failed. Yes, you have caused some pain, frustration, and doubt. However, that is not who you are now. You have to forgive yourself and others and move forward in your life. Stay busy doing the right things. Stay busy learning, growing, and changing. Don’t live by your emotions. Do the right thing rather you feel like it or you don’t.
I am sure everyone you meet has at one point in their lives been stuck. The great ones don’t stay there. The difference between average people and amazing people is often the ability persevere through those difficult moments. My journey has seen many brick walls and I can assure you that I will see many more. However, I know exactly what to do when I get there and now you do to. No matter where you are stuck, it doesn’t have to be where you stay. Find out how you got there, own up to your responsibility, focus on your promising future, partner with the right people, and keep moving even when it seems difficult.
That is how you get unstuck! I believe in you, you should too.