The Break Up

by Frank

This is part 4 of a 6 part series, Breaking Unhealthy Relationships Now-B.U.R.N.

This was something I wrote in 10/2009  that was my inspiration for writing this series. I thought it would be really beneficial to share this before sharing my tips on one of the most difficult things I have ever done in my life.

LET ME GO! (The inspiration for B.U.R.N.)

“Birds of a feather, flock together.”

I am going to let you in on one of life’s greatest secrets. If you have a destination that you want to reach, it is a lot easier to get there if someone isn’t holding you back. The hardest thing to realize is the people who are holding us back can also be the people who are closest to us. We are in some unhealthy relationships.

We unfortunately have a habit of connecting mostly with people who are similar to ourselves. Rather it be religion, social or economical status, common interests, or race we tend to spend the most time with people just like us. Although the relationships may be entertaining and pleasing they might be holding you back from where you want to end up. A poor man can’t teach another poor man how to be rich. It is like the blind leading the blind. It just won’t work.

Have you ever told a “friend” a dream of yours and had them laugh in your face? Have you ever had someone you thought was close to you DOG you behind your back? Have you ever been faced with a difficult situation and the person you thought would care the most wasn’t anywhere to be found? I know I have.

Well today is the day for change. If you are not here to help me then get your hands off of me. Stop holding me back from where I want to be in my life. Let go of my finances. Let go of my joy, peace, family and the people who want to help me grow. I do not have time to waste waiting for you to want more for yourself.

I don’t know what is holding you back. It can be your job, friends (lack of a better word), enemies, family, I don’t know anyone or anything. You have got to get free. In your life do you feel like there were times when you took one step forward just to take two steps back? Now you know why.

Have you ever really looked at the people that you spend the most of your time with? Do you think they are a good representation of what you want to be in your life? If not, what does this relationship offer that makes you hold on to it so desperately?

I don’t want to be held back anymore. I have wasted enough time.

Are you ready to be set free?

If you don’t want what is best for me………Get out of my life!

This was a pretty challenging point in my life. It was a time where I started to realize some of my relationships were unhealthy and unproductive. I felt abandoned, frustrated and lost but luckily I knew I wanted something better for myself. I broke a lot of unhealthy relationships.

Do you think I did the right thing?

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