I wonder sometimes how easy is it, when our lives are less than perfect, to assume that our lives are broken? Think about it. How many times have you read an article, watched a commercial, or talked with a friend who said, “I NEED a new life!”
Usually, in my line of work, when I hear these words I’m impressed. It takes a pretty strong person to admit that their life needs change. When I hear this line it is usually coming from a potential student who is thinking about education as a springboard into financial security and enjoyable employment. Of course, I’m all for this type of insightful shift in direction that comes as the result of deep retrospection.
Unfortunately this is not always the case.
What if a person has a great family, great career, and great social circle and then, overnight, throw all of it away on purpose (because of boredom, need for adventure, confusion, unhappiness or doubt)? We, as a society, have labeled this phenomenon a “Midlife Crisis” when someone is forty to sixty-years-old.
However, our society is changing: Eighteen-year-olds are doing this. Twenty-five-year-olds and Thirty-year-olds are cleaning the slate of their life and starting over, and over, and over again… never finding more than excitement and temporary happiness in their reincarnations. Someone, Alexandra Robbins, finally introduced the term Quarterlife Crisis. Yet, this is still not enough, at every phase people are reassessing their lives and scrapping whatever traction they have made.
My only explanation is by building a society of people with quick-fix mindsets we have also inherently created generations of people who devalue patience, commitment, hardwork and loyalty. Have we inadvertently taught ourselves and our children that if something is challenging then it is bad, give up, and start over?
Being committed to any cause will try your faith: Holding a steady job and building a career will try your faith (ask any director in your company who’s entire career is with the same company). Loving one person in marriage will try your faith (ask anyone married for fifty years). However, these are the same things that can inspired the greatest satisfaction and the highest “versions” of ourselves. Patience can kill false desires. Patience can bring peace where others would breed insanity.
Of all the things that current society has lacked to teach us, PATIENCE would have to be at the top of the list. It is a priceless commodity.
Because most of the best experiences in life do not come quickly, and if they do then they are rarely fully appreciated.
So ask yourself the next time you are about to change everything, “Am I trying to fix what’s not broken?”
James 1:3 Knowing this, that the trying of your faith works patience. But let patience have her perfect work, that ye may be perfect and entire, wanting nothing.